Before we had any kids, the husband and I had agreed on a all-baby-names-start-with-the-same-first-letter schtick. And I liked the idea even though it's the same first letter as HIS name, and I'd be the odd-woman out. But the reason I was fine with it was because I LOVE weird baby names (always have - way before it was THE bandwagon to jump on. Seriously, I wanted to name my kid "Darkly Noon" after a Brendan Fraser movie.) I love weird baby names because I always loved having a weird name myself. And the husband's first name starts with perhaps the weirdest letter available, so I thought that would be cute, to have this gaggle of weird-first-letter-named kids running around. This would be made even weirder because we're also only using ethnic names - my husband's ethnicity and not mine, so I'll be left out of everything. It'd be like having kids names Jose, Javier, and Julietta whose dad is name Juan and the mom is Molly.
So I was fine with it, but then everyone had to chime in. And people are resoundingly
anti-everyone's-first-name-starts-the-same-except-the-mother. And now I'm feeling a little self-conscious about it, and my husband's all "I thought we agreed already?" We still have a long list of names we both LOVE, but I'm starting to waiver a bit on this issue. Or am I? Maybe I need to tell everyone else that can go and name their own babies, thankyouverymuch. I'm asking for your - and your readers - HONEST opinion. Be brutal - I can take it! Really! How terrible is it when all the family shares the same first initial except the mom?
Oooh, brutality is fun! Let's have a poll over to the right. [Poll closed; see results below.]
It does seem a little sad for you to be so left out. But I think this is one of those areas where there is APPARENT symbolism (which is what bothers people) with no ACTUAL symbolism. I am assuming from the way you phrased your question that your husband is not using you as a Disposable Breeder to create His Family, but in fact the two of you are in this together and both like the idea of matching-initial names, in which case you should go with your plan and roll your eyes at everyone else.
I wonder if there is a way to reduce the Apparent Symbolism? One idea would be to give each child a middle name that starts with your initial and is in your name's style. I wouldn't suggest this in many situations (because it's very challenging and also may result in names with Inner Clash), but it sounds like this is the kind of challenge you'd not only be up to but also enjoy.
Poll results (327 votes total) for "Be brutal: How terrible is it when all the family shares the same first initial except the mom?"
Wicked terrible: 54 votes, roughly 17%
Kind of terrible: 76 votes, roughly 23%
Just a tidge terrible: 55 votes, roughly 17%
Meh, it doesn't MEAN anything: 129 votes, roughly 39%
Not terrible, it's awesome: 13 votes, roughly 4%