I am 4 weeks from having a beautiful baby boy in my arms and I don't feel settled on any name. I still probably spend 5 hours a day thinking about it.
Our last name is Wylie, and we're considering Robert, Cooper, or Zachary as middle names (all significant family names.)My daughter is Violet Noelle Wylie. And my son is Scott Brian Wylie. I love how Violet and Scott sound together, though I know they're stylistically different. Violet had long been my favorite girls name and Scott is my husband's middle name. I'm so glad I took a bit of a risk on Scott. I'm sure some people think it stale and tired. But for the most part it gets good reaction and actually feels fresh on the under 5 crowd!So my dilemma:We're leaning towards Oliver. But I just can't stand how popular it is. It is particularly popular in my state even though I don't know a single Oliver. The other problem is that Oliver sounds like Violet's brother but not really like Scotty's brother!Other's on the list:HeathRhettReidPennSimonSam (sooo popular!)PeterJames (nn Jamie)I feel like its slightly odd to use Simon, Peter, and James since they're so biblical? Am I over thinking that? The other small problem with Rhett, Reid, Heath, and Penn is that they lack nickname potential. I used to love one syllable boy names (hence choosing Scott) but the name pretty much got hijacked and we call him Scotty 99% of the time. So now I fear the one syllables a bit! What should I choose? Of course, I'm open to other suggestions from you and your readers. This is our last baby and I so want to love his name as much as I love Violet's!!
I think names like James, Peter, and Simon have all been fully mainstreamed by now: someone certainly COULD use them because of their biblical status, but they're just standard names at this point---as are Matthew, Andrew, Joshua, David, Michael, Benjamin, Daniel, Ethan, Mark, Caleb, Luke, Jonathan, etc.; practically the whole classic/traditional/timeless list are names that also appear in the Bible. Even Noah, Ezra, Ezekiel, Moses, Abraham, and Isaac are mainstreamed at this point, due to a recent trend of Quirky Biblical names. Perhaps if I encountered a family with ALL biblical names, I might WONDER---but encountering just one name from the list, it wouldn't even come to my mind. In a family with a Violet and a Scott, it certainly wouldn't seem biblical.
Although I do like to avoid style clashes within a sibling group, I think there are many styles that are different yet perfectly fine together. Scott and Oliver is an example of this: they're definitely not the same style, but they're fine: at most they provoke a small, interested, surprised feeling---but no "What happened THERE?" feeling as there might be with, say, Maverick and Jason, or Sunshine and Jessica. Scotty and Ollie is pretty cute!
I think if you've found you nicknamed Scott to Scotty against your original plan, I would avoid Penn.
Simon and Sam have an initial working in their favor: when two names are of somewhat different styles, a matching starting initial can make them seem more similar. Scotty and Sammy, Scotty and Simon.
Rhett has a similar situation but with its ending: the three names become linked through their ending T-sounds. Violet, Scott, and Rhett. I can see how you might want OR not want that; I think if I encountered it in the wild, I'd find it appealing. I even like how both boys have double T's.
Scott and Peter seem like a very good combination to me, and the T sound in Peter ties his name to his siblings.
I think my favorite from your list is James/Jamie: it gives you the same "one-syllable name, two-syllable nickname" pattern as with Scott. James Cooper Wylie; Violet, Scott, and James; Scotty and Jamie.
I suggest not trying to compare your feelings for a new name to your love of a name you loved for years and that has now fully become your daughter to you. The new name is almost always going to feel a little funny at first, while the established name can feel as if it's been perfect from the beginning. Instead, the goal can be the easier one of just finding the name you like best of the possibilities: not "As much as I love Violet" but "The one I like best from this list."
Since you've had the experience of finding that a name off its style peak can sound fresh on a small child, I suggest the name John. Like Scott, it's one-syllable and not currently on-trend. Like Scott, it sounds fresh and surprising in a kindergarten class full of Cadens and Masons. (In fact, that's how the name first caught my riveted attention: I saw it written in a child's hand on a cute drawing up on the kindergarten wall.) John Robert Wylie; Violet, Scott, and John; Scotty and Johnny.
I'd also add Grant. It has the T-ending, and I think it goes well enough with both Violet and Scott. Though Scott is more familiar to me at this point as a first name, Scott and Grant are both surnames.
Name update! K. writes:
Our beautiful boy was born on September 14th via repeat c-section. It took me about 2 days to settle on his name, though my husband was certain from his birth. Now, I am so in love with his name, I really can't believe it. I was so worried I couldn't be satisfied this time around. We chose Simon Cooper Wylie as his name. It's thanks to you and your readers! First, I was hesitant to have the name start with an 's' but once I removed that restriction knew I had a winner. Secondly, when only a few people liked Simon the best off my list, I realized I was routing for it! That made it easy! Thanks so much!