My husband and I are expecting a baby girl in less than 3 months, and we are having a very difficult time in deciding on an appropriate name for future brother Stanton (who is 3 years old). Stanton is a family name, and we believe it to be an old English name rich in tradition and strength. What girl's name would be a suitable match for such a strong name?
Our last name is Czajkowski (pronounced Cha-cow-ski) and I wonder if I should just ignore the flow of a name with this long last name. We have gone through so many girl's names at this point such as...
The following names are on our current list, but we welcome more ideas...
The middle name will be London, which is another family name. My husband's favorite is Catherine London but is this name too popular? I don't want our child to be one of many in a classroom.
I welcome any advice and direction please. I look forward to reading all comments!
Her husband writes:
My wife emailed you concerning the birth of our child in November. I wanted to email you via her email account so that you would know that we are emailing you concerning the same issue. However this email, this is from the male perspective.
My son's name is Stanton Czajkowski (pronounced Cha-cow-ski) and we are expecting a sibling of unknown sex this November. We love traditional yet uncommon names yet are having a difficult time with this baby's name. If it is a boy we have decided on Reid. We love the strength and tradition with this name, yet it almost feels slightly preppy which is fine. Unfortunately coming up with a middle name has been difficult. We have discussed the following names but rejected them as we just couldn't agree:
Alexander (already taken)
Potential middle names:
I would think we would need a 3-4 syllable middle name to work with Stanton Benedict Czajkowski's name. Am I correct on this.? Should the names flow? What truly flows with Reid Czajkowsk?
As for girls, this decision has been the absolute worst for us. What names would be a suitable match for Stanton yet not very common. We love how unique yet traditional the name Stanton is but we can't seem to find this with a girl's name. We have discussed the following names (plus many more , I must admit):
Charlotte (too common)
Constance ( hate the nickname Connie)
Jacqueline (difficult to say with our last name)
Victoria (nice but common)
Arden ( only my wife likes this one)
Sloane (two s names might be difficult)
Elizabeth (name has been taken)
If we didn't go with Ann London as a first name, the child's middle name would be London. My wife is hesitant to use Catherine (nickname could be Kit) because she thinks it is too common. Is this true? I realize that it is timeless, but I don't want our daughter to be one of many in a classroom. What other suggestions might you have that would be a good sibling match for Stanton? No one seems to have heard of the name Stanton ( a family name) so I get blank stares when I ask this question.
Thank you for listening to the male perspective in our situation. I look forward to your response, as we could certainly use your help!
My wife just informed me that she wrote in her email that we were having a girl. I should clarify this, as we do not know the sex of the baby. She feels that it will be a girl and continues to focus on the girls name as it continues to be a debate between us. As for the baby being a boy, this is completely possible so we continue to discuss a middle name for Reid.
I apologize for any confusion, but she truly feels this baby will be a girl. I , however, strongly feel we should be prepared either way.
Constance is my favorite. You don't need to use the nickname Connie: there is a Constance in my family who goes by Consie. The name Constance has enough backbone to stand with Stanton, and it meets your preference for traditional yet unusual. My one hesitation is whether it is too tongue-tangley with the surname. Constance Cha-cow-ski.
The name Catherine is not currently at "many in a classroom" levels of popularity. According to the Social Security Administration, in 2011 there were 7,397 new baby girls named Katherine, Catherine, and Kathryn. That translates to .3852% of baby girls born that year---or about 1 baby girl with that name out of every 260 baby girls. If a classroom has an average of 15 girls, there will be an average of 1 girl named Katharine/Catherine/Kathryn per 17 classrooms. Statistics can't tell us the whole story (name popularity varies by region, and flukes happen constantly), but they can help us assess the risk. The risk of two Catherines in a classroom is very low. Catherine London Czajkowski seems like a great choice to me, and works well with both Stanton and with a possible future Reid.
Many of the other names on your lists also seem like good choices. Adelaide, Bronwen, Sloane, and Ann London stand out to me. But if your only concern with Catherine is its popularity, that's my first choice of all the possibilities.
I don't think you need to match Reid's entire first/middle to Stanton's, though I agree it's nice if it works out that way, and that I too would be aiming for something similar in overall weight and length.
What was it that led you to the middle name Benedict? Was it a family name, or were you looking for a saint name, or was it something else? Here are some possibilities to consider:
If nothing seems right, I suggest tearing up the family tree looking for a good family name/surname (especially from Jessica's side, if the children already have their father's surname), so that each boy has one.